?

Log in

No account? Create an account
leafy

Grampa died yesterday morning. His nurses said he wasn't aware of being in any discomfort at the very end, and I am sure that he knew we were there singing to him on Friday night.

I am happy for him, knowing that he isn't struggling any longer, and so grateful that Dad never had to make a decision about whether or not to continue feeding him.

And it goes without saying that I am incredibly sad.


Grampa had a cunning wit, and a love for words, and he looked for the good in people, and more often than not, he found it.

Posted on Sep. 3rd, 2006 at 07:45 pm | | Leave a comment | 16 comments |

Comments


andreamarie

I'm sorry for your family's loss. Losing a grandparent is a difficult thing... I lost my grandfather 2 years ago. He passed away as I was rushing through the 8 hour drive trying to see him one last time. I didn't make it. You're fortunate to have been able to be there with him, comforting him.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 12:21 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

almandine

Oh that's rough Andrea. It's a hard hard thing - pets and grandparents bring out the most emotion in us - so close to the surface it is.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:21 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

_sara

It's hard to think about him and talk about even his death as a loss. That it might feel like a loss to people means he's enriched all those lives. The loss would be not appreciating him, or forgetting him and what makes him so important to the people who love him.

Meeting your Grampa was a very special experience for me. I'm grateful for the opportunity.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 12:26 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

_sara

and part of me knows I'm talking out of my ass. You'll never see someone you love ever again. Of course that's a loss. It still feels strange to me to talk about someone so great as lost when he inspired the hearts of people as amazing as you and your dad.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 12:29 am (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

almandine

And you're not talking out of your ass - I know that eventually when I stop being so sad, I am going to be able to remember many happy times with him, and carry him with me.
He's free now.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:25 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

almandine

Sara, I am so glad that you met him, and that you met him when he was so much more present than he's been recently.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:23 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply
(Deleted comment)

almandine

Thank you so much Karin. Hug to you too!
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:25 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

jasper17

I'm sorry for your loss.

*hugs*
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 02:57 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

almandine

Thank you. hugs to you.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:19 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

puffpastry

Oh, sweetie, I send you tons of love and good wishes, and I'm thinking good thoughts for your
Grampa as he travels to the next great adventure.

((((hug))))
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 03:46 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

almandine

Thank you Amy. I've been kind of enjoying thinking about the logistics where ever he might be now, and how both of the loves of his life (my father's mother who died young, and Ila, the grandmother I knew) might get along.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:18 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

little_helper

So sorry - I wish I could give you a hug in person, but this virtual one will have to do.
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 04:38 pm (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

almandine

It's the virtual thought that counts - thank you very much Erin. :)
Posted on Sep. 4th, 2006 11:19 pm (UTC) | | Parent | Thread | Reply

naked_american

Oh Becky, I'm so sorry. It's an amazing thing that you knew and loved your grandfather so well - and I'm sure he's happy and free wherever he is now.

xox
Posted on Sep. 5th, 2006 03:00 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

ayawatson

I am so sorry to hear about your loss Becky - my gramps just had a stroke a couple days ago and is having trouble speaking now and he has paralysis in his face... its so sad to see those you have loved your whole life whither away slowly. Having it out of your control makes it even harder. But remember the good memories... I'll see you soon
Posted on Sep. 8th, 2006 12:07 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply

thatroom

I miss him too.

I miss Grampa a lot. Of course, I miss all of you. I think about you all.
Posted on Oct. 5th, 2007 03:42 am (UTC) | | Thread | Reply
boxing kitten

July 2007

S M T W T F S
1234567
891011121314
15161718192021
22232425262728
293031    
Powered by LiveJournal.com